Showing posts with label listing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label listing. Show all posts
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
Friday, August 5, 2011
Thoughts on Rates
I did not follow one of the best pieces of advice I ever got when I was first starting out: you're new, so you can afford to play with your rates, so keep raising them by $0.10/min every two weeks or so until you find your sweet spot.
Instead, after a month at $0.99/min ($0.55/min to me) to build feedback, I jumped to $1.49/min ($0.90/min to me). It was a smashing success. The 63% raise more than compensated for the callers who quit me. I felt justified at having bypassed the slow, painful rate creep.
Perhaps counter-intuitively, I lost many of my very short callers (under-10-minute average), fewer people insisted that I send them free minutes before they'd try me out, and I found more callers willing to talk for longer. It was fantastic. I was on cloud nine.
And then, a month after that, I disastrously tried to raise my rates again to $1.99/min ($1.25/min to me), at the same time as I was traveling, and also while setting up an invite-only VIP line that stayed at $1.49/min. I confused my callers, knocked my listings out of their top-page spots, and lost the momentum I had with people leaving me feedback. It was a horrible, terrible mess.
So I tucked my tail between my legs, salvaged the points I had made on my VIP line by switching it to an open line, rolled back all my prices to $1.49/min, and promised not to jack with my rates again for at least three months. That was 10 months ago, and the rates on Smart Fun Galiana haven't budged since then.
In the meantime, I created Ms Galiana and Hypno Galiana and toyed with their rates a bit, but I gave up on them when I realized I was unhappy with the way the listings were written. Unfortunately, that was also about the time we had to move, so they got lost in the shuffle for a while. But they're climbing back. They'll find their own ways in the world, I feel sure of it.
(pssst... I'll let you in on a secret: for a brief time, I also opened a purposefully mysterious listing with no pictures of my face, and I had a British accent and I charged $2.99/min. But when the few people who called that line insisted on knowing more about me personally, I hated the pressure of having to choose between lying to them or continuing to play bad cop and say no. Plus, it was nerve-wracking to switch personas like that in the space of 10 seconds as Madge told me which character was getting the call. But I'm not gonna lie, the British accent was super fun. Don't tell anybody, okay?)
My motivation for reconsidering my rates is that many callers have told me I am selling myself short because of my intelligence and creativity. I am acutely aware of my shortcomings, which makes me want to leave my rates low, but also aware that I may be leaving money on the table, which is silly.
Also, now that I am under a bit less financial pressure than I was, a few weeks of "oops well that didn't go as I'd hoped" is more acceptable now than it used to be. Don't get me wrong, the cash I'm making now is going toward non-luxuries like car insurance and vet bills, and my Amazon gift cards replenish my dog treats more often than they provide lipsticks or lingerie, but I am responsible for a smaller percentage of our overall spending.
Ugh, I need to take a break from explaining my financials for a while, and yet I keep feeling the need to do so. Here, this should help: We're nowhere near rich, we have too much debt, we have no savings yet (although we're working on it now), and I still need to work to pay some bills. There. I said it. Now then... Dear whatever part of me needed to keep explaining my finances: Please hush now, for at least a month, okay? Oooooookay.
Back to rates: I have set the rates on my Ms Galiana listings at $2.25/min ($1.44/min to me), which I expect to attract a few callers over time. And after I re-write my Hypno Galiana listings, those will be set at $1.95/min($1.23/min to me). Those rates reflect the relative expenditures of my energy to do those types of calls, in general. Obviously, some submissive calls are draining and some domme calls are refreshing, but in general, I expend more energy leading than I do following.
When Ms Galiana and/or Hypno Galiana take off enough for me to start feeling resentful of taking calls on Smart Fun Galiana, I will start raising those rates by $0.05 / minute every two or three weeks until it feels like the three accounts are balancing themselves out properly.
I will also be logging in to other sites to take calls, and starting those at a minimum of $2/min (announcements forthcoming soon about where else I am listed).
My uninformed guess is that it will take 3 months before I start raising Smart Fun Galiana rates, and I will end up with: Ms Galiana $2.25 - Hypno Galiana $1.95 - Smart Fun Galiana $1.75.
For the sake of gratitude and nostalgia, I will keep a wandering $1.49 line, and I'll keep the blog updated to let you know which one it is. The idea is: there will always be at least one listing where I could use more points or good feedback or a better ranking, so I can direct fiscally savvy blog readers to call me there for a lower rate, and everyone is theoretically happy.
Plus, let's be honest: if you're reading the blog, I like you better, and you deserve it.
So the first step in all this very-slow-moving process was to open Ms Galiana at $2.25/min. Done.
The second step is to raise the rate on my Smart Fun Galiana listings under the Mistresses and Femme Dommes categories. Also done.
The third step is to finish my Hypno Galiana re-write. Mmmmm.... not so much with the done on that yet. But at least I'm mulling it. That's a start, right?
Instead, after a month at $0.99/min ($0.55/min to me) to build feedback, I jumped to $1.49/min ($0.90/min to me). It was a smashing success. The 63% raise more than compensated for the callers who quit me. I felt justified at having bypassed the slow, painful rate creep.
Perhaps counter-intuitively, I lost many of my very short callers (under-10-minute average), fewer people insisted that I send them free minutes before they'd try me out, and I found more callers willing to talk for longer. It was fantastic. I was on cloud nine.
And then, a month after that, I disastrously tried to raise my rates again to $1.99/min ($1.25/min to me), at the same time as I was traveling, and also while setting up an invite-only VIP line that stayed at $1.49/min. I confused my callers, knocked my listings out of their top-page spots, and lost the momentum I had with people leaving me feedback. It was a horrible, terrible mess.
So I tucked my tail between my legs, salvaged the points I had made on my VIP line by switching it to an open line, rolled back all my prices to $1.49/min, and promised not to jack with my rates again for at least three months. That was 10 months ago, and the rates on Smart Fun Galiana haven't budged since then.
In the meantime, I created Ms Galiana and Hypno Galiana and toyed with their rates a bit, but I gave up on them when I realized I was unhappy with the way the listings were written. Unfortunately, that was also about the time we had to move, so they got lost in the shuffle for a while. But they're climbing back. They'll find their own ways in the world, I feel sure of it.
(pssst... I'll let you in on a secret: for a brief time, I also opened a purposefully mysterious listing with no pictures of my face, and I had a British accent and I charged $2.99/min. But when the few people who called that line insisted on knowing more about me personally, I hated the pressure of having to choose between lying to them or continuing to play bad cop and say no. Plus, it was nerve-wracking to switch personas like that in the space of 10 seconds as Madge told me which character was getting the call. But I'm not gonna lie, the British accent was super fun. Don't tell anybody, okay?)
My motivation for reconsidering my rates is that many callers have told me I am selling myself short because of my intelligence and creativity. I am acutely aware of my shortcomings, which makes me want to leave my rates low, but also aware that I may be leaving money on the table, which is silly.
Also, now that I am under a bit less financial pressure than I was, a few weeks of "oops well that didn't go as I'd hoped" is more acceptable now than it used to be. Don't get me wrong, the cash I'm making now is going toward non-luxuries like car insurance and vet bills, and my Amazon gift cards replenish my dog treats more often than they provide lipsticks or lingerie, but I am responsible for a smaller percentage of our overall spending.
Ugh, I need to take a break from explaining my financials for a while, and yet I keep feeling the need to do so. Here, this should help: We're nowhere near rich, we have too much debt, we have no savings yet (although we're working on it now), and I still need to work to pay some bills. There. I said it. Now then... Dear whatever part of me needed to keep explaining my finances: Please hush now, for at least a month, okay? Oooooookay.
Back to rates: I have set the rates on my Ms Galiana listings at $2.25/min ($1.44/min to me), which I expect to attract a few callers over time. And after I re-write my Hypno Galiana listings, those will be set at $1.95/min($1.23/min to me). Those rates reflect the relative expenditures of my energy to do those types of calls, in general. Obviously, some submissive calls are draining and some domme calls are refreshing, but in general, I expend more energy leading than I do following.
When Ms Galiana and/or Hypno Galiana take off enough for me to start feeling resentful of taking calls on Smart Fun Galiana, I will start raising those rates by $0.05 / minute every two or three weeks until it feels like the three accounts are balancing themselves out properly.
I will also be logging in to other sites to take calls, and starting those at a minimum of $2/min (announcements forthcoming soon about where else I am listed).
My uninformed guess is that it will take 3 months before I start raising Smart Fun Galiana rates, and I will end up with: Ms Galiana $2.25 - Hypno Galiana $1.95 - Smart Fun Galiana $1.75.
For the sake of gratitude and nostalgia, I will keep a wandering $1.49 line, and I'll keep the blog updated to let you know which one it is. The idea is: there will always be at least one listing where I could use more points or good feedback or a better ranking, so I can direct fiscally savvy blog readers to call me there for a lower rate, and everyone is theoretically happy.
Plus, let's be honest: if you're reading the blog, I like you better, and you deserve it.
So the first step in all this very-slow-moving process was to open Ms Galiana at $2.25/min. Done.
The second step is to raise the rate on my Smart Fun Galiana listings under the Mistresses and Femme Dommes categories. Also done.
The third step is to finish my Hypno Galiana re-write. Mmmmm.... not so much with the done on that yet. But at least I'm mulling it. That's a start, right?
Thursday, July 28, 2011
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Question of the Day
Since my two other usernames have been dormant for so long while I'm (ostensibly) rewriting them, I am considering renaming them as well as reworking them.
The one that was known as "Mistress Galiana" (which I'm about halfway done rewriting) will be changing to "Ms Galiana". I considered and rejected "Lady Galiana" "Queen Galiana" "Domme Galiana" "Vixen Galiana" "Minx Galiana" "Goddess Galiana" "Galiana In Charge" "Galiana Leads" and plain old "Galiana Chance". My reasons for rejection were many, but it basically boils down to "I think too much about details like this, but fer fuxx sake just pick one already".
I was planning on leaving my hypnosis-focused username as is: "Hypno Galiana" but a long-time caller suggested the possibility of "Galiana Trance".
I can't decide if it's wonderful, or too clever for my own good (or, y'know, both).
Your opinion is eagerly requested.
The one that was known as "Mistress Galiana" (which I'm about halfway done rewriting) will be changing to "Ms Galiana". I considered and rejected "Lady Galiana" "Queen Galiana" "Domme Galiana" "Vixen Galiana" "Minx Galiana" "Goddess Galiana" "Galiana In Charge" "Galiana Leads" and plain old "Galiana Chance". My reasons for rejection were many, but it basically boils down to "I think too much about details like this, but fer fuxx sake just pick one already".
I was planning on leaving my hypnosis-focused username as is: "Hypno Galiana" but a long-time caller suggested the possibility of "Galiana Trance".
I can't decide if it's wonderful, or too clever for my own good (or, y'know, both).
Your opinion is eagerly requested.
Thursday, April 14, 2011
First Draft of New Listings
I'm thinking of something like this when I update my listings this week... (except the pics will show up larger there)
Questions for you: What do you think? What am I missing? What do I have too much of? What could be better? Does it feel like "me" to you?
And... ideas for a new title? Help, I'm seriously stuck on that part...
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My Blog: Get to know me better - http://galianachance.com/blog
My Calendar: Log-in schedule for the next seven days - http://galianachance.com/blog/calendar/
My Voice: Hear a voice sample of me saying hi!
Fetish For Variety: It's hard to answer the question "what turns you on?" because the list is so long and varied. Soft and sensual, hard and rough, topping, subbing, teasing, degrading, or rubbing your shoulders while hearing about your crappy day at the office - I love all those, because it's the connection I enjoy most.
Your lust landscape probably has 50 things in it. My lust landscape probably has 50 bazillion things in it. I am confident we can find overlap, and build an amazing playground together.
Smart: A former data analyst / IT manager with a tendency to date programmers and engineers, what geek/gamer cred I don't have on my own, I have probably at least overheard. I'm happy to share my SAT scores, my IQ percentile, and where I went to college - you won't be disappointed!
Creative: I was a theater major and a creative writing minor (and went on to be paid to act a few times, and was given a miniscule amount for my erotic fiction to be published in print... but braggin' rights is braggin' rights, right?).
The important point is that I can keep the fresh ideas coming, and if you enjoy a good role play, I can fully join you in your fantasy.
Real: I really love having sex - I'm openly non-monogamous in my personal life.
I really love having phone sex – the discovery and exploration have been deeply enriching for me.
I really love getting to know a new lover - discovering how to make your breath catch from lust turns me on more than I can express.
P.S. I do have a few limits, but I don't want unsexy things on my listing, so write me if you have questions.
P.P.S. Those who take the time to read my blog or leave me satisfied feedback are especially treasured.
Questions for you: What do you think? What am I missing? What do I have too much of? What could be better? Does it feel like "me" to you?
And... ideas for a new title? Help, I'm seriously stuck on that part...
=====
My Blog: Get to know me better - http://galianachance.com/blog
My Calendar: Log-in schedule for the next seven days - http://galianachance.com/blog/calendar/
My Voice: Hear a voice sample of me saying hi!
Fetish For Variety: It's hard to answer the question "what turns you on?" because the list is so long and varied. Soft and sensual, hard and rough, topping, subbing, teasing, degrading, or rubbing your shoulders while hearing about your crappy day at the office - I love all those, because it's the connection I enjoy most.
Your lust landscape probably has 50 things in it. My lust landscape probably has 50 bazillion things in it. I am confident we can find overlap, and build an amazing playground together.
Smart: A former data analyst / IT manager with a tendency to date programmers and engineers, what geek/gamer cred I don't have on my own, I have probably at least overheard. I'm happy to share my SAT scores, my IQ percentile, and where I went to college - you won't be disappointed!
Creative: I was a theater major and a creative writing minor (and went on to be paid to act a few times, and was given a miniscule amount for my erotic fiction to be published in print... but braggin' rights is braggin' rights, right?).
The important point is that I can keep the fresh ideas coming, and if you enjoy a good role play, I can fully join you in your fantasy.
Real: I really love having sex - I'm openly non-monogamous in my personal life.
I really love having phone sex – the discovery and exploration have been deeply enriching for me.
I really love getting to know a new lover - discovering how to make your breath catch from lust turns me on more than I can express.
I look forward to playing with you!
~ Galiana
P.S. I do have a few limits, but I don't want unsexy things on my listing, so write me if you have questions.
P.P.S. Those who take the time to read my blog or leave me satisfied feedback are especially treasured.
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Role Play Up, Sex Down
I have a listing in the "Role Play" category that I started specifically to market to the ASFR / android / robot girl / technosexual / fembot / gynoid crowd. (Dear That Crowd: please settle on a name for yourselves... /grin )
And today, that listing is ranked higher as a Top Pick than my listing in the "Sex" category when you look in Find Women, which is the approximate equivalent of searching for "All Women". Or, if you're a geek, it’s a 'find . -print' from the root.
Top Picks is the default search order, and it is heavily weighted by activity in the past two weeks: calls, repeat calls, new callers, pay-to-views, click-through rate, and feedback.
My main listing has almost always been my highest Top Pick, with 36 pages of feedback and over 2000 lifetime ratings points.
What nudged my Role Play listing above it? A few things, I think, although the process is frustratingly mysterious, so I can't be absolutely sure.
One thing I know: I sold my Galiana-bot demo video under my Role Play listing, which helped it. And then I have a couple of callers who have found me there who want non-robot-themed role plays. I've taken a lot of (unexpected) time off the past two weeks, so my Sex listing has been slower. And then I had a nice, long, delicious call with a fembot fetishist ... and three of his android friends... oh, no, wait, make, that five of his android friends if you count the two lovely technicians who were testing the stamina of my upgraded pleasure controls when we started (thank goodness for lubrication conduits!).
The big differences between the two are the title and the voice sample. My Sex title is "Curvy, Fun, Creative, and a little Geeky!" And my Role Play title is "Trained Actress for RP: Robot, Escort, Bimbo...". The voice sample for the RP listing is the android voice sample, which shows vocal range for other roles as well, but mostly showcases my girlbot voice. The Sex voice sample is much more generic.
I'm so curious to see if I get a different kind of caller if this trend continues... The few I've picked up from the listing have been smart, creative, fun, and sexy sexy sexy, so if that continues, I'm happy to have my actress on top on my geek (well, goodness, that's a thoroughly distracting mental picture...)
I hope it doesn't get lost in the shuffle that I'm capable of having non-sexual conversations as well. And that it's not acting when I sound like I care about my callers. And that if a call has engaged me at all sexually, emotionally, or intellectually, it's not acting when I have an orgasm.
Let's not forget those things, okay?
And today, that listing is ranked higher as a Top Pick than my listing in the "Sex" category when you look in Find Women, which is the approximate equivalent of searching for "All Women". Or, if you're a geek, it’s a 'find . -print' from the root.
Top Picks is the default search order, and it is heavily weighted by activity in the past two weeks: calls, repeat calls, new callers, pay-to-views, click-through rate, and feedback.
My main listing has almost always been my highest Top Pick, with 36 pages of feedback and over 2000 lifetime ratings points.
What nudged my Role Play listing above it? A few things, I think, although the process is frustratingly mysterious, so I can't be absolutely sure.
One thing I know: I sold my Galiana-bot demo video under my Role Play listing, which helped it. And then I have a couple of callers who have found me there who want non-robot-themed role plays. I've taken a lot of (unexpected) time off the past two weeks, so my Sex listing has been slower. And then I had a nice, long, delicious call with a fembot fetishist ... and three of his android friends... oh, no, wait, make, that five of his android friends if you count the two lovely technicians who were testing the stamina of my upgraded pleasure controls when we started (thank goodness for lubrication conduits!).
The big differences between the two are the title and the voice sample. My Sex title is "Curvy, Fun, Creative, and a little Geeky!" And my Role Play title is "Trained Actress for RP: Robot, Escort, Bimbo...". The voice sample for the RP listing is the android voice sample, which shows vocal range for other roles as well, but mostly showcases my girlbot voice. The Sex voice sample is much more generic.
I'm so curious to see if I get a different kind of caller if this trend continues... The few I've picked up from the listing have been smart, creative, fun, and sexy sexy sexy, so if that continues, I'm happy to have my actress on top on my geek (well, goodness, that's a thoroughly distracting mental picture...)
I hope it doesn't get lost in the shuffle that I'm capable of having non-sexual conversations as well. And that it's not acting when I sound like I care about my callers. And that if a call has engaged me at all sexually, emotionally, or intellectually, it's not acting when I have an orgasm.
Let's not forget those things, okay?
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Request for Listing Input
I used to think that I did things in weird ways until I worked with dozens of programmers. Then I learned that most people do things in their own unique fashion, and that if you give them room to do things their way, often it will be most efficient for them.
When I have a big, complicated project looming -- like, for example, rewriting all my listings -- I need to ponder it a while before I actually start making changes.
I am currently in my mulling phase, which means I'm pleasantly distracting myself by importing my transaction detail into an Access database , and automating the process to parse customer name and transaction type.
Inner Data Analyst: It's about frikkin' time! The Excel process was killing me. Literally killing me dead, every frikkin' day. DEAD, I tell you! ...
Inner Data Analyst takes a while to calm down once she gets on a rant, so we'll let her unwind while we continue.
I have a request of you, Dear Reader, which is: Please let me know what you think I should keep and/or change about my current listing(s).
GENERAL LISTINGS:
For my general listings, I currently have three listings with a mishmash of ideas presented in them:
* http://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/9463253 - Sex listing
* http://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/9503597 - Role Play listing
* http://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/9507267 - Cam listing
I want to stress that I'm smart, fun, playful, sex-positive, versatile / variety fetish, have a theater background, I care about the people who call me, and I consider myself more of a "lover" than a "girlfriend". Some of that is in there now, and some of it isn't.
HYPNO LISTINGS:
For my hypno listings, I currently have one listing template:
* http://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/9498705
I completely need to change it. Right now it makes me look sad. Or serious. Or boring. Or something. But definitely something that I am not.
I actually want to stress more of the same things I stress in my general listings: I'm smart, fun, playful, sex-positive, etc.
But I also need to emphasize that I really truly enjoy erotic hypnosis. I do. It's sexy as hell.
And that I'm willing to do hypno role plays, but if you're calling my hypno line, I am assuming that you want actual hypnosis.
And that I am a hypnotist, not a mind reader, and there are dozens of choices to be made, and that I need you to tell me what you like and what you want for you to get the most out of it. I'm okay with putting you under and asking you to tell me then, but if you can answer before I trance you, that would be ideal.
MISTRESS GALIANA LISTINGS (changing to Lady Galiana):
For my mistress listings, I currently have one listing template:
* http://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/9498763
I also need to completely change it. First, I'm changing the name to "Lady Galiana", which I think is a better reflection of my topping style than "Mistress" or "Goddess" or "Princess".
I know, it sounds a bit like "Lady Gaga", but I like her fierceness, open sexuality, and unapologetic support of the LGBTQ community, so I'm okay if a comparison is made, jokingly in passing. I'm comfortable that I am my own person enough to wipe out that image quickly.
Next, the pictures and the language I'm currently using there are too formal and serious for me. When I'm in charge, I'm still smart, fun, playful, etc, and the listing currently doesn't convey that very well.
And I need to emphasize that I really truly enjoy dominating sexually. It's a huge power rush and a turn on for me.
And that I love sex, so I could very well choose to get off while I'm dominating or using you (I don't want my listings to be focused on what I am not, but I think there is a popular conception that mistresses don't allow submissives to make them come because then they lose control. Maybe that's true in some dominant relationships, but I'd rather have orgasms, thank you very much).
I like the stuff that's in there now about being cooperative, but lately, I've been thinking about my flavor of domination in terms of being a "service top" -- I enjoy playing a dominating role for the many of the same reasons I enjoy playing a submissive role: I love knowing my partners is getting exactly what s/he's been craving, and more. Giving control and taking control are both means -- for me, the end is ensuring an intensely delicious experience for both of us.
IN ALL THREE:
For all three of my logins / "characters" / personas, the common theme is: I love hearing my lover all grateful, satisfied, and happy after we're done.
Help me out gang. Give me phrases, themes, ideas for layouts, suggestions for pictures you think would work well, thoughts I'm missing, anything you can think of to help my next round of listings be exponentially more appealing than the current ones.
Thanks!
When I have a big, complicated project looming -- like, for example, rewriting all my listings -- I need to ponder it a while before I actually start making changes.
I am currently in my mulling phase, which means I'm pleasantly distracting myself by importing my transaction detail into an Access database , and automating the process to parse customer name and transaction type.
Inner Data Analyst: It's about frikkin' time! The Excel process was killing me. Literally killing me dead, every frikkin' day. DEAD, I tell you! ...
Inner Data Analyst takes a while to calm down once she gets on a rant, so we'll let her unwind while we continue.
I have a request of you, Dear Reader, which is: Please let me know what you think I should keep and/or change about my current listing(s).
GENERAL LISTINGS:
For my general listings, I currently have three listings with a mishmash of ideas presented in them:
* http://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/9463253 - Sex listing
* http://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/9503597 - Role Play listing
* http://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/9507267 - Cam listing
I want to stress that I'm smart, fun, playful, sex-positive, versatile / variety fetish, have a theater background, I care about the people who call me, and I consider myself more of a "lover" than a "girlfriend". Some of that is in there now, and some of it isn't.
HYPNO LISTINGS:
For my hypno listings, I currently have one listing template:
* http://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/9498705
I completely need to change it. Right now it makes me look sad. Or serious. Or boring. Or something. But definitely something that I am not.
I actually want to stress more of the same things I stress in my general listings: I'm smart, fun, playful, sex-positive, etc.
But I also need to emphasize that I really truly enjoy erotic hypnosis. I do. It's sexy as hell.
And that I'm willing to do hypno role plays, but if you're calling my hypno line, I am assuming that you want actual hypnosis.
And that I am a hypnotist, not a mind reader, and there are dozens of choices to be made, and that I need you to tell me what you like and what you want for you to get the most out of it. I'm okay with putting you under and asking you to tell me then, but if you can answer before I trance you, that would be ideal.
MISTRESS GALIANA LISTINGS (changing to Lady Galiana):
For my mistress listings, I currently have one listing template:
* http://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/9498763
I also need to completely change it. First, I'm changing the name to "Lady Galiana", which I think is a better reflection of my topping style than "Mistress" or "Goddess" or "Princess".
I know, it sounds a bit like "Lady Gaga", but I like her fierceness, open sexuality, and unapologetic support of the LGBTQ community, so I'm okay if a comparison is made, jokingly in passing. I'm comfortable that I am my own person enough to wipe out that image quickly.
Next, the pictures and the language I'm currently using there are too formal and serious for me. When I'm in charge, I'm still smart, fun, playful, etc, and the listing currently doesn't convey that very well.
And I need to emphasize that I really truly enjoy dominating sexually. It's a huge power rush and a turn on for me.
And that I love sex, so I could very well choose to get off while I'm dominating or using you (I don't want my listings to be focused on what I am not, but I think there is a popular conception that mistresses don't allow submissives to make them come because then they lose control. Maybe that's true in some dominant relationships, but I'd rather have orgasms, thank you very much).
I like the stuff that's in there now about being cooperative, but lately, I've been thinking about my flavor of domination in terms of being a "service top" -- I enjoy playing a dominating role for the many of the same reasons I enjoy playing a submissive role: I love knowing my partners is getting exactly what s/he's been craving, and more. Giving control and taking control are both means -- for me, the end is ensuring an intensely delicious experience for both of us.
IN ALL THREE:
For all three of my logins / "characters" / personas, the common theme is: I love hearing my lover all grateful, satisfied, and happy after we're done.
Help me out gang. Give me phrases, themes, ideas for layouts, suggestions for pictures you think would work well, thoughts I'm missing, anything you can think of to help my next round of listings be exponentially more appealing than the current ones.
Thanks!
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Galiana 2K!
Go, go Galiana! My "Sex" listing just hit a rating of 2,000 points! Yay! And for those of you keeping track, yesterday was exactly 8 months since I took my first call.
The milestone doesn't mean anything in terms of callers finding me more easily, but it's been fun to watch it climb over the last few days and wonder who was going to push it over the edge.
Turns out, it was a new caller, on for 17 minutes, who wanted a humiliating cuckolding girlfriend role play. I surprised him on his birthday by setting up a threesome, and when he arrived at my apartment, looking forward to having two women blow him, I was tangled up naked in bed with a gentleman with an enormous cock, I had come all over my belly and in my pussy, and I informed my boyfriend that a few things were going to be changing since he wasn't adequately equipped to satisfy me by himself... Happy birthday, darling...
On a related note: my Inner Bitch fucking loves this job.
So, congratulations to me, and to my Inner Bitch, for getting the job done right.
The milestone doesn't mean anything in terms of callers finding me more easily, but it's been fun to watch it climb over the last few days and wonder who was going to push it over the edge.
Turns out, it was a new caller, on for 17 minutes, who wanted a humiliating cuckolding girlfriend role play. I surprised him on his birthday by setting up a threesome, and when he arrived at my apartment, looking forward to having two women blow him, I was tangled up naked in bed with a gentleman with an enormous cock, I had come all over my belly and in my pussy, and I informed my boyfriend that a few things were going to be changing since he wasn't adequately equipped to satisfy me by himself... Happy birthday, darling...
On a related note: my Inner Bitch fucking loves this job.
So, congratulations to me, and to my Inner Bitch, for getting the job done right.
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Fuckatorium 2.0, Blog Post 300!
I have set up The Fuckatorium enough for me to re-open my cam listing, and this is my 300th Blog Post! (queue streamers, horns, ticker tape, merriment and mirth all around)
On 300 blog posts: Considering I started blogging Aug 15, that's a little better than 40 blog posts per month... which is probably too damn many, but I've learned to accept and (usually) love my chattiness. I am proud of many of the things I've written here, and I have been touched again and again by the responses of people who have found the blog.
On the Fuckatorium and cam: I wanted my 300th post to be special, so I spent the day finalizing my space, and I did a little video tour of the finally-set-up-enough-to-unveil Fuckatorium 2.0! Exciting!
(important note: The sound quality on the video is not as good as the sound when you call me - I promise. But I was tired of mucking with the sound and already 2.5 hours behind schedule, so I went with it.)
I hope to eventually transcribe the video and edit this post with that, but for now, I hope you can hear most of it.
The important things are: the Fuckatorium 2.0 is set up enough for me to feel comfortable in it, it's a big room, I have a mirrored wall which are hiding closets full of fun clothes and gear, I have a bookshelf full of sex toys, and I have my bed.
Oh, and I figured out how to show my feet close-up without straining myself (a big improvement over the setup from Fuckatorium 1.0).
Now that this is (mostly) done, I can already feel the energy returning to do all kinds of thing with my web site, my listings, my blog... Seriously, all of my productive energy has been focused on this for the past three days: getting this blog post up with a video and turning my cam listing back on, and yet, while the video was still compressing, ideas starting popping into my head.
Dear Galiana: Please relax and enjoy yourself tonight instead of bopping directly to the next thing without taking time to celebrate, you goofy dork. Love, Galiana
(footnote: my first caller of the evening was phone, not cam, but he was willing to indulge me feeling celebratory, so now I feel like I've had a toast with the best champagne to christen the place... thank you)
Happy happy me!
On 300 blog posts: Considering I started blogging Aug 15, that's a little better than 40 blog posts per month... which is probably too damn many, but I've learned to accept and (usually) love my chattiness. I am proud of many of the things I've written here, and I have been touched again and again by the responses of people who have found the blog.
On the Fuckatorium and cam: I wanted my 300th post to be special, so I spent the day finalizing my space, and I did a little video tour of the finally-set-up-enough-to-unveil Fuckatorium 2.0! Exciting!
(important note: The sound quality on the video is not as good as the sound when you call me - I promise. But I was tired of mucking with the sound and already 2.5 hours behind schedule, so I went with it.)
I hope to eventually transcribe the video and edit this post with that, but for now, I hope you can hear most of it.
The important things are: the Fuckatorium 2.0 is set up enough for me to feel comfortable in it, it's a big room, I have a mirrored wall which are hiding closets full of fun clothes and gear, I have a bookshelf full of sex toys, and I have my bed.
Oh, and I figured out how to show my feet close-up without straining myself (a big improvement over the setup from Fuckatorium 1.0).
Now that this is (mostly) done, I can already feel the energy returning to do all kinds of thing with my web site, my listings, my blog... Seriously, all of my productive energy has been focused on this for the past three days: getting this blog post up with a video and turning my cam listing back on, and yet, while the video was still compressing, ideas starting popping into my head.
Dear Galiana: Please relax and enjoy yourself tonight instead of bopping directly to the next thing without taking time to celebrate, you goofy dork. Love, Galiana
(footnote: my first caller of the evening was phone, not cam, but he was willing to indulge me feeling celebratory, so now I feel like I've had a toast with the best champagne to christen the place... thank you)
Happy happy me!
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Monday, January 24, 2011
Saturday, January 15, 2011
New Page: Stuff To Buy
I am very happy to announce: I put up a page on this blog with all of my items to buy on it ! Please feel free to browse the oh-so-un-subtly named: Stuff To Buy page.
(side note: Whew! Yay me! It feels like I have crossed something major off my to-do list which I've wanted to do for a long time. It's a drag that I had the time today because the phones were pretty slow all day, but yay that it's done!)
Each item has a picture, and that picture is the link to buy the thing.
All items are payable through NiteFlirt, so you need a NiteFlirt account to buy them (NiteFlirt is secure and confidential, takes less of a percentage cut than many adult pay-to-view payment processors, and new customers get 3 minutes free on sign-up).
Even though all my items are also listed at MyFlirtStore.com, I find myself frustrated at the inability to re-sort the items so they appear in the order that makes sense to me.
Also, on a completely practical note, my next big undertaking is to personalize my listings with targeted pay-to-views where possible, so I wanted to gather all the pay-to-view code in one place, instead of having to scrounge through offerings and build the HTML listing-by-listing.
I feel like this is one step in a season of infrastructure-building in my fledgling adult career. It feels like maybe I have sat back and observed enough, and I am now ready to roll out the pieces which make sense for me... all at once... all bazillion of them...
Which is probably why my blog has recently felt like a series of posts alternating between "Hey, look what I did!" followed by "Zoikes! There are so many things I want to do!" I think it's because I have a sense of where to go from here, but I'm trying to pace myself and be satisfied with doing just one or two things each day.
Wish me luck: pacing myself has never been my strong suit.
Enjoy the new page!
(side note: Whew! Yay me! It feels like I have crossed something major off my to-do list which I've wanted to do for a long time. It's a drag that I had the time today because the phones were pretty slow all day, but yay that it's done!)
Each item has a picture, and that picture is the link to buy the thing.
All items are payable through NiteFlirt, so you need a NiteFlirt account to buy them (NiteFlirt is secure and confidential, takes less of a percentage cut than many adult pay-to-view payment processors, and new customers get 3 minutes free on sign-up).
Even though all my items are also listed at MyFlirtStore.com, I find myself frustrated at the inability to re-sort the items so they appear in the order that makes sense to me.
Also, on a completely practical note, my next big undertaking is to personalize my listings with targeted pay-to-views where possible, so I wanted to gather all the pay-to-view code in one place, instead of having to scrounge through offerings and build the HTML listing-by-listing.
I feel like this is one step in a season of infrastructure-building in my fledgling adult career. It feels like maybe I have sat back and observed enough, and I am now ready to roll out the pieces which make sense for me... all at once... all bazillion of them...
Which is probably why my blog has recently felt like a series of posts alternating between "Hey, look what I did!" followed by "Zoikes! There are so many things I want to do!" I think it's because I have a sense of where to go from here, but I'm trying to pace myself and be satisfied with doing just one or two things each day.
Wish me luck: pacing myself has never been my strong suit.
Enjoy the new page!
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Splitting Personalities: Hypno & Mistress Galiana
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Monday, December 13, 2010
Hypno Recorded Listing & Pay-to-View
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Sunday, December 12, 2010
Sleep Rates Aha Moment
I said I was going to do sleep-rates sometimes (where I raise my rate when I'm asleep but willing to be awakened), blogged about it, put it on my calendar, did it for three nights, and then... didn't do it again. And I didn't know why I didn't want to keep doing it. Baffling.
From that day two weeks ago when I had my first sleep-rate success until this weekend, I've been blessedly busy on the phones. Yay! Fun new callers, great conversation with regular callers, everything a Phone Whore Attention Slut could want (feel free to call me P.W.A.S.).
Then suddenly, after changing nothing, the last twenty-four hours have been slow. I've caught up on some chores, caught up with some friends, relaxed, and even napped a little.
And now, it's close to 10 pm, so I still have two or three hours to go before I sleep, but I'm facing fresh unused batteries in my vibrator and a mild feeling of rejection, and I'm thinking of having sleep-rates again tonight.
And aha! Now I know. There is a pattern. I have found it. And there was much rejoicing (yay).
Apparently, I want to do sleep-rates when I'm feeling a little bored, when I have a little extra energy, or when it's just been too many hours before bedtime since I've had an orgasm, and the thought of being awakened to have one sounds yummilicious.
Science has been done.
From that day two weeks ago when I had my first sleep-rate success until this weekend, I've been blessedly busy on the phones. Yay! Fun new callers, great conversation with regular callers, everything a Phone Whore Attention Slut could want (feel free to call me P.W.A.S.).
Then suddenly, after changing nothing, the last twenty-four hours have been slow. I've caught up on some chores, caught up with some friends, relaxed, and even napped a little.
And now, it's close to 10 pm, so I still have two or three hours to go before I sleep, but I'm facing fresh unused batteries in my vibrator and a mild feeling of rejection, and I'm thinking of having sleep-rates again tonight.
And aha! Now I know. There is a pattern. I have found it. And there was much rejoicing (yay).
Apparently, I want to do sleep-rates when I'm feeling a little bored, when I have a little extra energy, or when it's just been too many hours before bedtime since I've had an orgasm, and the thought of being awakened to have one sounds yummilicious.
Science has been done.
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Listings Update 14
I am on update #14 for my home page and main listing. That seems compulsive since I've been doing for a little less than 5 months. It was a lot of work, but the changes are probably largely unnoticeable to anyone but me. Some day I'll recover from never being satisfied...
1. I made my voice samples a link instead of an embedded file. I was told that in some browsers, the file started playing with no warning. I hate that! So no more embedding for me.
2. I added a link to my recorded listing, so if I'm offline, people can listen anyway. Hopefully, I'll expand that soon with another recorded listing if I can get off my generous, round, grab-able ass and get it done. Heh, I just amused myself.
3. I re-did the wording and pictures on my home page and general listings so the pictures are all the same size, and they're all a little bigger. I realized the feedback table at the bottom of each listing has a minimum width, and my picture/text boxes were thinner that than, so there was room to expand.
4. I changed the pay-to-views to only list three instead of four. I needed the HTML characters (there's a limit on how many characters can be in your listing). Hopefully the link to My Flirt Store will still make my other pay-to-views obvious enough to interested parties.
5. I added a holiday thing at the bottom with tip buttons, and a link to my Amazon Wish List. It felt monumental to me, because I learned how to do an image map! I know, I'm a geek, I should know more HTML, but I started doing analysis and managing after doing VB programming and data analysis, not web programming. Still... /hangheadinshame for waiting this long, and /yaygoodforme for figuring it out now. It will come in handy.
Next on my ever-expanding to-do list? Another pay-to-view picture set and a recorded hypno listing. And then I'll be done for a while, right? Oh, except my pictures aren't all the same size on my submissive listings...
1. I made my voice samples a link instead of an embedded file. I was told that in some browsers, the file started playing with no warning. I hate that! So no more embedding for me.
2. I added a link to my recorded listing, so if I'm offline, people can listen anyway. Hopefully, I'll expand that soon with another recorded listing if I can get off my generous, round, grab-able ass and get it done. Heh, I just amused myself.
3. I re-did the wording and pictures on my home page and general listings so the pictures are all the same size, and they're all a little bigger. I realized the feedback table at the bottom of each listing has a minimum width, and my picture/text boxes were thinner that than, so there was room to expand.
4. I changed the pay-to-views to only list three instead of four. I needed the HTML characters (there's a limit on how many characters can be in your listing). Hopefully the link to My Flirt Store will still make my other pay-to-views obvious enough to interested parties.
5. I added a holiday thing at the bottom with tip buttons, and a link to my Amazon Wish List. It felt monumental to me, because I learned how to do an image map! I know, I'm a geek, I should know more HTML, but I started doing analysis and managing after doing VB programming and data analysis, not web programming. Still... /hangheadinshame for waiting this long, and /yaygoodforme for figuring it out now. It will come in handy.
Next on my ever-expanding to-do list? Another pay-to-view picture set and a recorded hypno listing. And then I'll be done for a while, right? Oh, except my pictures aren't all the same size on my submissive listings...
Friday, December 3, 2010
Reddit Update
The Reddit thing went very well - it was super-duper fun, and my Inner Exhibitionist had a ball. It's pretty quiet now, but if you're interested, here it is: http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/efl7g/iama_phone_sex_operator_with_an_iq_of_142_ama/
As expected, I was dead tired and dizzy as hell after scrolling and writing all day, but I took a nap, and I'm feeling better than I thought I would this quickly, so the phones will be on and off sporadically tonight and tomorrow during the day as I recover.
Who know if it will have "been worth it" in the long run in terms of new callers, but I had a blast interacting with geeks all day. Too fun!
As expected, I was dead tired and dizzy as hell after scrolling and writing all day, but I took a nap, and I'm feeling better than I thought I would this quickly, so the phones will be on and off sporadically tonight and tomorrow during the day as I recover.
Who know if it will have "been worth it" in the long run in terms of new callers, but I had a blast interacting with geeks all day. Too fun!
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Voice Samples!
EDIT: I was warned all my mp3s auto-launched in some browsers although I told them not to. Bad mp3s! So now they're just links.
I haven't ventured deeply yet into the world of recorded listings or for-pay-mp3s because I hadn't yet taken the time to figure out software that would give me the control I wanted. Until today!
I found Audacity, which is an amazing free, open source recording and editing tool. Now I don't have to choose between my too-soft microphone and my too-loud microphone: I can use the too-loud mic but turn the input volume down, and tadaaa! Much better!
So I made a few voice samples for my listings as a starting place. It was easy to convert them to mp3s, which are compact and usually playable from most browsers.
For my home page and "general listings" (Sex, Oral, Housewives, Girl Next Door), I made this one: Smart Fun Galiana Voice Sample
For my submissive listings, this one: Submissive Galiana Voice Sample
For my mistress listing: Mistress Galiana Voice Sample
And last but not least, for my hypno listing: Galiana Hypnotism Voice Sample
It's funny to listen to them back-to-back like that, because I made them over the space of a few hours. I'm a touch concerned that it makes me seem like I have a personality disorder to be able to change my voice that much. I don't, I promise. I just like a bunch of different things.
What's a diversity-aholic slut to do? Make a diverse bunch of listings, I guess...
Enjoy!
I haven't ventured deeply yet into the world of recorded listings or for-pay-mp3s because I hadn't yet taken the time to figure out software that would give me the control I wanted. Until today!
I found Audacity, which is an amazing free, open source recording and editing tool. Now I don't have to choose between my too-soft microphone and my too-loud microphone: I can use the too-loud mic but turn the input volume down, and tadaaa! Much better!
So I made a few voice samples for my listings as a starting place. It was easy to convert them to mp3s, which are compact and usually playable from most browsers.
For my home page and "general listings" (Sex, Oral, Housewives, Girl Next Door), I made this one: Smart Fun Galiana Voice Sample
For my submissive listings, this one: Submissive Galiana Voice Sample
For my mistress listing: Mistress Galiana Voice Sample
And last but not least, for my hypno listing: Galiana Hypnotism Voice Sample
It's funny to listen to them back-to-back like that, because I made them over the space of a few hours. I'm a touch concerned that it makes me seem like I have a personality disorder to be able to change my voice that much. I don't, I promise. I just like a bunch of different things.
What's a diversity-aholic slut to do? Make a diverse bunch of listings, I guess...
Enjoy!
Monday, November 29, 2010
Sunday, November 28, 2010
Becoming Mistress Galiana
Today's post brought to you by... I'm on the front page of Fetish -> Fem Dommes! And pleasantly shocked by that!
Three months ago, I wrote a blog post about being an on-phone Mistress. A commenter wrote, "I can't help but wonder if this Mistress Galiana isn't closer to who you are becoming?" I replied:
I have to talk about it first. As it says in my Domme and Hypno listings, negotiation is mandatory. Everyone wants a different blend of restraint, feminization, sensory overload, sensory deprivation, guided masturbation, tease and denial, pain, reward, punishment, encouraging or requiring bisexual activity, and/or cuckolding role play. Submissives who expect me to launch into a script tend to hang up on me. People who want an unusual blend, or a bit of connection before we play, are the ones who tend to call me back.
I love boys with toys. When a sub says he has a cock ring and a butt plug and a dildo and a flogger and clothespins, it's like having a road map to delicious sadistic debauchery. I know, that's lazy of me. But I love it.
I understand. My honesty about being a switch has attracted some who want to know their Mistress understands their side of the fence. Because I have also experienced the delicious thrill of having a Master's or Mistress' complete and utter attention, knowing they have our mutual pleasure in mind, I am able to give that same focus.
I want the best from them. If someone craves tease and denial before they climax, I want them to be sweating before I allow them to come. If someone wants to improve their cock sucking skills, I want to see that lipstick ring all the way down to the base of that dildo. I know having someone else spur you on helps you stretch yourself, and it's amazingly erotic.
I want the best for them. I genuinely want to help people be their best. So if someone is confessing guilt to me about things they found erotic, but disturbing, with another Mistress, I'm happy to guide them away from those pitfalls and toward new ways of experiencing pleasure. I especially feel like I'm helping sissies become their best, because there's so much to learn about being a good slutty girl! Heels! Makeup! Fellatio! Oh my!
I love erotic hypnosis. I am finding it amazingly gratifying to to be able to tell someone, "I am pleased with you," and hear them shudder with erotic pleasure. I'm not interested in brainwashing someone to their detriment, but I will enhance an orgasm every day of the week. Taking someone deep and strengthening their response to my voice is just fun.
I have limits. But I wrote about those in this blog post, so I won't repeat them.
Wads of cash are not appearing. Financial domination is much more often a fantasy than a reality. The urge to pamper me and buy me gifts tends to disappear about 5 seconds after an orgasm. I believe that some women get large tributes from real financial submissives, but so far, I am not one of those women. I'm still enjoying the heck out of those calls - it is just as much fun to fantasize about being spoiled as it is to fantasize about seducing neighbors or being the lucky girl in a gang bang. But it ain't real so far.
I need to improve: teasing. I'm getting better at drawing out a teasing session, and I know dozens of ways to stimulate a cock with my fingers and tongue, but I still suck at staying away from a cock. I mean, honestly, it's right there, twitching at me, how can I ignore it? Plus, I have vivid memories of saying that I want to be teased for 30 minutes, but then 15 minutes into it, I'm dying to come, so I still tend to cave too quickly. I'm getting better. My pacing control is improving, and I'm remembering to interrupt the action more often. But there's plenty of room to grow.
I need to improve: return conditions. When a submissive promises me he won't masturbate until he calls back, and then he doesn't call back, I wonder: is he concerned I'll be upset? I won't be. It just shows how weak he is without my guidance and how much he needs me to help him be his best. Right? But how do you communicate that without giving someone an "easy way out" and being a wimpy Mistress? Confusing.
I still need to improve: humiliation. Sometimes I can be ruthlessly cutting - when I heard myself asking a painslut small penis humiliation subby if a penis that small was even capable of feeling pain and described flumping it with my finger, I realized my s.p.h. has gotten pretty solid. And I'm almost always much more cruel the second and third time we talk than the first, as if it has to soak into my subconscious that he really does get an erotic charge from this, but it would be lovely if I could jump in more easily.
I summed it all up pretty neatly in an email to a financial submissive who changed his mind after he climaxed:
Three months ago, I wrote a blog post about being an on-phone Mistress. A commenter wrote, "I can't help but wonder if this Mistress Galiana isn't closer to who you are becoming?" I replied:
"I have about 4 more blog posts started to explore that very question, but the very short summary is: I've always been a social and professional switch (can bottom or top as needed), but never figured out how to translate it to the bedroom before now. I'm looking forward to continuing to explore it.It didn't take 6 years. It took about 50 calls. Patterns are beginning to emerge.
I know I'll never be just a Mistress. I know I'll always be a switch. I trust that I will eventually be confident as a Mistress, just as confident as I was as a Tech Manager after I'd been a Tech Manager for 6 years. Wow. I hope it doesn't take me 6 years this time."
I have to talk about it first. As it says in my Domme and Hypno listings, negotiation is mandatory. Everyone wants a different blend of restraint, feminization, sensory overload, sensory deprivation, guided masturbation, tease and denial, pain, reward, punishment, encouraging or requiring bisexual activity, and/or cuckolding role play. Submissives who expect me to launch into a script tend to hang up on me. People who want an unusual blend, or a bit of connection before we play, are the ones who tend to call me back.
I love boys with toys. When a sub says he has a cock ring and a butt plug and a dildo and a flogger and clothespins, it's like having a road map to delicious sadistic debauchery. I know, that's lazy of me. But I love it.
I understand. My honesty about being a switch has attracted some who want to know their Mistress understands their side of the fence. Because I have also experienced the delicious thrill of having a Master's or Mistress' complete and utter attention, knowing they have our mutual pleasure in mind, I am able to give that same focus.
I want the best from them. If someone craves tease and denial before they climax, I want them to be sweating before I allow them to come. If someone wants to improve their cock sucking skills, I want to see that lipstick ring all the way down to the base of that dildo. I know having someone else spur you on helps you stretch yourself, and it's amazingly erotic.
I want the best for them. I genuinely want to help people be their best. So if someone is confessing guilt to me about things they found erotic, but disturbing, with another Mistress, I'm happy to guide them away from those pitfalls and toward new ways of experiencing pleasure. I especially feel like I'm helping sissies become their best, because there's so much to learn about being a good slutty girl! Heels! Makeup! Fellatio! Oh my!
I love erotic hypnosis. I am finding it amazingly gratifying to to be able to tell someone, "I am pleased with you," and hear them shudder with erotic pleasure. I'm not interested in brainwashing someone to their detriment, but I will enhance an orgasm every day of the week. Taking someone deep and strengthening their response to my voice is just fun.
I have limits. But I wrote about those in this blog post, so I won't repeat them.
Wads of cash are not appearing. Financial domination is much more often a fantasy than a reality. The urge to pamper me and buy me gifts tends to disappear about 5 seconds after an orgasm. I believe that some women get large tributes from real financial submissives, but so far, I am not one of those women. I'm still enjoying the heck out of those calls - it is just as much fun to fantasize about being spoiled as it is to fantasize about seducing neighbors or being the lucky girl in a gang bang. But it ain't real so far.
I need to improve: teasing. I'm getting better at drawing out a teasing session, and I know dozens of ways to stimulate a cock with my fingers and tongue, but I still suck at staying away from a cock. I mean, honestly, it's right there, twitching at me, how can I ignore it? Plus, I have vivid memories of saying that I want to be teased for 30 minutes, but then 15 minutes into it, I'm dying to come, so I still tend to cave too quickly. I'm getting better. My pacing control is improving, and I'm remembering to interrupt the action more often. But there's plenty of room to grow.
I need to improve: return conditions. When a submissive promises me he won't masturbate until he calls back, and then he doesn't call back, I wonder: is he concerned I'll be upset? I won't be. It just shows how weak he is without my guidance and how much he needs me to help him be his best. Right? But how do you communicate that without giving someone an "easy way out" and being a wimpy Mistress? Confusing.
I still need to improve: humiliation. Sometimes I can be ruthlessly cutting - when I heard myself asking a painslut small penis humiliation subby if a penis that small was even capable of feeling pain and described flumping it with my finger, I realized my s.p.h. has gotten pretty solid. And I'm almost always much more cruel the second and third time we talk than the first, as if it has to soak into my subconscious that he really does get an erotic charge from this, but it would be lovely if I could jump in more easily.
I summed it all up pretty neatly in an email to a financial submissive who changed his mind after he climaxed:
I think sexual experience and sexual expression can help people on their path to becoming the best version of themselves. I don't personally understand how being humiliated or financially dominated can fulfill someone, but I know how being beaten helped me, and that is equally irrational.
Since I have limits of what I would say (and many other Mistresses do not seem to), I like to think that at least I'm a slightly safer pool to splash about it. The rocks you're drawn to by my siren voice are, hopefully, only foam board, and your ship should stay perfectly safe with me.I'm loving becoming Mistress Galiana, so much more than I thought I would. Bring it on.
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