Becoming a Kinky Presenter

Did I happen to mention that I was a presenter at Beat Me in St Louis in March? The class was "Phone Sex and Distance BDSM".

The way I got the gig was to write the organizers and say approximately "I'm willing to present free if you need an awkward slot filled." Saturday morning 9 am after a late dungeon party? You betcha!

So I put together a list of classes I'm willing to teach. I'm sure I'll be updating it, but I wanted to remember how it started.

* Distance BDSM and Phone Sex
* Kinky Ice Breaker Game: "Choose An Offer"
* Hosting Play Parties
* Basic BDSM Safety & Negotiations

1. Distance BDSM and Phone Sex - sharing my experiences, ideas, mistakes, and advice on distance relationships and phone sex, from long-term distance to a week apart. As a phone sex operator, a switch, and someone who has participated in long-distance relationships with lovers, Doms, and subs, I understand that ache when you want to be together but can't... And how to turn that desire into intimate shared memories.

2. Kinky Ice Breaker Game: "Choose An Offer" - a fun, flirty, easy, low-pressure way to allow guests to get to know each others, and find out who might be interested in you! The game consists of people making offers of varying levels of naughtiness (spank me, I'll paddle you, grope me, I'll rub your shoulders), people choosing offers which interest them, and 60-second rapidly-negotiated warm-up-level scenes. Class time includes a few rounds of game play for all participants!

3. Hosting Play Parties - discussion of some legal, logistical, and community issues to be aware of when you're considering hosting play parties in your home. How do you structure invites? Space? Toys? Snacks? Costs? Nudity? Sex? Rules? Enforcement of rules? Neighbors? Dungeon Masters / Monitors? Group dynamics? Privacy? Sound? How do you use FetLife? And does hosting make you a community leader, a controlling narcissist, or both? (Hint: it's totally both)

4. Basic BDSM Safety & Negotiations - An interactive discussion about the basics of safety and negotiations. Where should I avoid making impact? What helps keeps rope bondage safer? How do I talk with a potential play partner before we play? What are expectations at most events and parties? Strongly recommended for newcomers to the scene, but welcome for anyone who wants a refresher.

Bio:
Known personally as "Angela", on FetLife as "PlaySmart", and as "Galiana Chance" in her career as a phone sex operator, Galiana and her husband are exhaustingly active members of the Central IL BDSM community. They host educational events, a monthly Meet n Greet, and a usually-monthly play party.

Galiana learned phone sex because Angela is a non-monogamous bisexual switch with long-distance lovers.

Galiana Chance has been a successful phone sex operator on NiteFlirt (the most popular phone sex web site in the US per Alexa rankings). For about six months when she was full-time, she was regularly in the top 10 most popular providers, and very early one Tuesday morning, she was number 1.

In her spare time, Angela makes up more names for herself while caring for her rescue mutts, PlaySmart uses too many words on FetLife, and Galiana sometimes writes about phone sex and other kinky life issues at her Jane's Guide recommended blog: http://galianachance.net/blog/about/

Presentation Experience:
I presented at Beat Me in St Louis 2013 (it went well for Saturday at 9 am). I have led kinky classes in central IL, a monthly kinky munch in central IL, and 20 years of professional non-kinky classes and workshops on technical topics. References are available upon request for my presentation / group dynamics skills.

Feedback:
-from Beat Me in St Louis 2013-

Funny, engaging, informative and fun

I am so glad I rolled out of bed for her! Excellent and gave me fantastic ideas

Love, love the ideas. You were descriptively awesome.

Funny, informative and the presenter was super hot! (Ed note: I think this was my husband's feedback)

Love the examples you gave of various scenarios.

Wonderful examples, tips, tricks that can be implemented in every day relationships.

Loved it! So engaging, funny, warm. Thank you!

Exact description of class. Funny and enjoyable presentation. 

Love the part about role play. Could have sat through an entire class on that.